[Faucet]

I have been in long term relationship with a man, and have recently felt like I was bursting at the seems to explore my sexuality. I have always been attracted to women but for some reason too scared to do anything about it. I have talked with my partner and although it is hard he wants me to explore it to. The problem is that I don't know where to begin and feel as though the lesbian community at my university is very tight knit. I also feel that they would look down on me. It's a strange position because I am deeply in love and at the same time needing something, needing to experience something I have always wanted. I am confused and feel somewhat alone. I don't want to be stymied by the stereotype of wishy washy bi-sexuals who are undecided, mostly because I don't feel undecided. I feel inexperienced. If it wasn't for my boyfriend I wonder where I would be and somehow feel like it would be so much easier to put myself out there. But, I am responsible for our feelings and don't want to cause pain. Any ideas? I would really apppreciate it.

[dana]

[Faucet]

Thanks for you reply. I think it is hard when I know that it might hurt him. And at this point I know so little about my own desires to women. I get so shy around women that I'm attracted to so it's hard to really make it happen anyway. You would think that being that I have felt these attractions for so long towards various women that I have known, never a close friend, that I would feel somewhat at ease. But, I feel like such a novice. Not really able to tap into my sexual confidence. Like a little school girl again.

[Juli]