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Children of GLBTQ Parents  
 
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Another daughter of a lesbian couple said, "Knowing that they are gay has taught me to be honest about my feelings with them, because they have always been honest with me."

In 2000, editors Noelle Howey and Ellen Samuels published the first collection of personal essays written by the children of glbtq parents. These personal accounts do not shy away from the more challenging realities that children must face as they come to accept their glbtq parents.

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As Laura Zee admits of her father, "Truth is, I was ashamed of my dad. I thought it was freaky that he felt the way he did. And as long as I pretended to myself and others that he was 'normal,' I didn't have to face my guilt about those feelings."

Despite this painful acknowledgment, Zee slowly progressed in her own understanding and acceptance of her father's gender identity. Even though theirs is not a perfect relationship, she knows that the road to full acceptance will take time. "I wished I could tell my dad," she writes, "who had always been there for me, that I was proud of him, too. I couldn't. I'm not there yet. But I'm getting closer."

Zee's essay is characteristic of the volume's more complicated advocacy for glbtq families. Written by children from their own experience, it does not flinch from telling the entire story, even the parts that might not allay the fears and misunderstandings of many Americans.

In one of the most moving of the essays, Stefan Lynch, the son of the late Toronto activist Michael Lynch and a closeted lesbian mother, recalls how he grew up fearful of the ever-present threat of violence from antigay haters and hostile police and how this experience affected him. "When I hid the truth about my family, I thought it was because I didn't want to be ostracized. I was a bit nerdy and awkward and out of place already without adding to it by outing my parents. But now I can more fully appreciate how my anxiety about antigay violence motivated my silence. I only caught a glimpse of that anxiety's true impact once or twice a year: usually at a Gay Pride march, when every step felt lighter, like a weight I didn't know was there had gone away."

As children of glbtq parents mature and come into their own as adults, activists, and writers, they are increasingly speaking on their own behalf, taking ownership in a debate that ultimately affects them most.

Abigail Garner's 2004 book, Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is, perhaps most clearly exemplifies this impulse. Presenting a less than politically correct take on glbtq family advocacy, Garner speaks as the daughter of a gay man. Her primary purpose is to support other children of glbtq parents as they struggle through the difficulties that can beset them. Consequently, she does not idealize or glamorize glbtq families or minimize the toll that homophobia sometimes takes on the children of such families.

Perhaps the most exciting recent development in the advocacy for the children of glbtq families is the creation of a term: queerspawn. The term, coined by Stefan Lynch and employed by Garner, has been embraced by a new generation of children who have incorporated the campy irreverence of activism and adopted it for their own identities.

In identifying as queerspawn, they assert their membership in a larger glbtq community even if they are heterosexual.

The term is used as the name of a blog in which children exchange stories and experiences online, as well as of an online audio documentary project that hopes to produce narratives by the children of glbtq families.

Geoffrey W. Bateman

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    Author: Bateman, Geoffrey W.  
    Entry Title: Children of GLBTQ Parents  
    General Editor: Claude J. Summers  
    Publication Name: glbtq: An Encyclopedia of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual,
Transgender, and Queer Culture
 
    Publication Date: 2007  
    Date Last Updated March 16, 2012  
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