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Lesbian Mothers and Gay Fathers

Because children have long been viewed as an indispensable part of a family unit, and because women can bear children, much of the broadening definition of the queer family began with lesbians. Many lesbians had children, and the status of these children as part of a family had to be determined. Some had children from previous heterosexual relationships and were forced into custody battles with ex-husbands who were either or not above using homophobia in order to gain possession of their children.

These custody battles were not only painful personal struggles, but were also the birthplace of a new definition of family. For example in Belmont v. Belmont, a precedent-setting case in 1979, a Washington, D. C. court granted a lesbian mother custody of her two children, defining her home with her female partner as a nurturing family.

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Groups such as the Lesbian Mothers National Defense Fund, founded in Seattle in 1974, help provide support and legal advice to women fighting for custody of their children. However, as recently as 1993, a Virginia judge awarded custody of Sharon Bottoms' son to his maternal grandmother because of Bottoms' lesbian lifestyle. Bottoms fought unsuccessfully for another three years before finally giving up on regaining her son.

Many lesbians who had never had relationships with men also wanted to bear children. Those who did not wish to have sex with men in order to get pregnant turned to artificial insemination. Established fertility clinics sometimes discriminated against lesbian women and were often quite expensive.

In response to these obstacles, many lesbian communities developed informal networks to help lesbians find anonymous sperm donors. Although this process was simpler during the 1970s, when HIV-AIDS had not yet become an issue, informal arrangements between lesbians and donors remain common in the twenty-first century. Anonymous artificial insemination allows for the creation of truly fatherless families, which appeals to many women who wish to live independently of men.

Gay men have also struggled to become and remain parents, some through fostering or adoption and some through surrogacy arrangements, as well as through maintaining custody of their biological children. Because of negative stereotyping of gay men as sexual predators, and of men as non-nurturing, the mainstream public has often found it difficult to accept gay men as parents.

Both lesbians and gay men who attempt to adopt children have run into many legal obstacles. In 2002, popular talk-show host and famous adoptive parent Rosie O'Donnell came out as a lesbian mother specifically for the purpose of challenging the law prohibiting gay adoption in the state of Florida. As part of her very public coming out, she hosted a television special highlighting several gay families.

In many states, even some that permit gay or lesbian individuals to adopt, it is difficult or impossible for gay or lesbian couples to adopt children jointly. As of 2002, only 8 states allowed second-parent adoption for gay and lesbian families.

Support for Gay and Lesbian Families

There are a variety of organizations that offer support for gay families: the Family Pride Coalition is a support group for gay parents, while Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) offers services to children of gay families. There is even a slick journal for gay parents called And Baby, and R Family Vacations offers cruises for gay families.

In many ways, the situation for gay families has improved. In 2001, the Netherlands became the first country to legalize same-sex marriage, and Vermont became the first state in the United States to officially recognize same-sex relationships as civil unions. In many European countries and Canada, gay and lesbian couples are recognized as spouses or spouse-equivalents and are extended such rights as the power to make medical decisions and to inherit automatically. In the 2003 ruling in favor of gay marriage in Massachusetts, that state's supreme judicial court based its decision in part on the advantages that marriage would confer on the children of gay and lesbian couples.

Families without Children

However, there are members of the queer community who challenge the idea that families must be comprised of couples with children. These counter-culture queers question the emphasis some in the gay and lesbian movement place on gaining acceptance for families that are traditional in every sense except heterosexuality.

Rather than merely wanting the rights and benefits that go along with marriage and children and blood relationships, these visionaries seek a truly broad definition of family, one that includes chosen families of friends and extended community. Any benefits, rights, and recognition accorded by society should be provided across the board, they argue, and not reserved for those who seek and find committed relationships with one person or who rear children.

Moreover, these radicals contend, if queer families can find acceptance only if they look just like straight families, then little has really changed in the overall definition of the family.

Tina Gianoulis

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    Bibliography
   

Drucker, Jane, and Harold M. Schulweis. Lesbian and Gay Families Speak Out. New York: Perseus, 2001.

Ganong, Lawrence H. Changing Families, Changing Responsibilities: Family Obligations Following Divorce and Remarriage. Rahwah, N. J.: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 1999.

Kantrowitz, Barbara. "Gay Families Come Out." Newsweek (November 4, 1996): 50-57.

Mintz, Steven. "Family: Social History in the United States." The Reader's Companion to American History. John A. Garraty and Eric Foner, eds. New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1991. 378-83.

Patterson, Charlotte J., and Richard E. Redding. "Lesbian and Gay Families with Children: Implications of Social Science Research for Policy." Journal of Social Issues 52.3 (Fall 1996): 29-53.

Pollack, Jill S. Lesbian and Gay Families: Redefining Parenting in America. London: Franklin Watts, 1995.

Smith, Dodie. Dear Octopus: A Comedy in Three Acts. London: Heinemann, 1938.

 

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